Everyone cheats. Everyone has at some point fantasized about another person or dreamed that the relationship they have is something different. The thing is that not everyone steps into an extramarital affair. Cheating is a nebulous term that is thrown around when no one really has a clear definition for it. It's generally agreed upon that when physical intimacy reaches a certain stage that it's cheating, but there's this wide gray area that sometimes is cheating and sometimes is not, but that no one can make up their mind on.
So you're thinking of an extramarital affair, but you're afraid of getting caught, right? Of course you are. Everyone is held by that fear and some people worry about it so much that they decide to put their needs second to their fear. If you decide to be brave though and take that plunge, there are a couple things you need to keep in mind. You're not cheating to find a new relationship that will replace the one you have. If you were going to do that then a divorce would be easier than having an extramarital affair. Cheating is mostly done to maintain the status quo rather than disrupt it.
If you want to make cheating easier on yourself though you're going to want to try some of the following tips. It may not be possible to get all of them, but the more you do get, the easier it's going to be to maintain your status quo while having an extramarital affair.
1) Avoid single women who have children.
If they're married with children and indulging in an extramarital affair as well, you know that things will be kept nice and tidy, but having an affair with a single woman who has children is messy at best. You will have to work around her children and may even need to interact with them. Considering the fact that while some affairs can be long term, most of them are fleeting and it's not fair to the kids to have an adult that flits in and out of their lives like that. Also, should you ever happen to be in a situation where you meet your affair partner and her children in public while your wife is there, the kids are not going to be able to keep a secret.
2) Long distance affairs are good affairs.
If you're long distance, the both of you aren't going to have much in the way of expectations. It's something that you can fly out and have without worrying too much about any risks. It's easier to hide from your spouse and will take up less of your time. Having a fling while you're on a trip works well too and the money you spend can always be chalked up to business expenses.
3) Try to get a woman who has the same name as your wife or someone in your family.
While it might seem weird to even suggest this, consider how easy it can be to have a slip of the tongue. If you're angry and you say your mistresses name but it's the same as your wife's she'll never have any idea that anything went wrong. If it's a member of your family, it's also more understandable since you're close to them and it makes sense that they would be on your mind even when you're fighting with your spouse.
4) The more minimal the changes are, the better.
You don't want to change your schedule, your finances and your moods. The key to not being caught in an affair is going to be not changing yourself or the way you act. If an affair is going to take over your life then you're going to be caught very quickly. You need to make sure that you're keeping mostly the same schedule and slipping in your affairs during times when you're going to be out anyway. Skip a trip to the gym or a shopping trip in order to fit your affairs in.