Article from the New York Post – Tuesday March 23, 2010 (print edition)
by Carol Midgley
Dr. Dennis Friedman’s new book “An Unsolicited Gift” suggests that “employing a nanny to look after your baby son could turn him into a womanizer like Tiger Woods.”
The reasoning behind this theory is that you have unconsciously introduced your son to “the concept of the Other Woman – the idea that there can be one female to meet one set of needs and another to meet different ones.” The article continues to explain how your son now has two women in his life. One that he admires, loves and respects and a second one who does physical things for him such as feeding and “kissing scraped knees”.
Friedman says that “as a result, he grows up with the idea that although he will one day go through all the social and sexual formalities of marriage, he will have at the back of his mind the notion of this other woman, who not only knows, but caters [to], all of his needs.”
For this reason, men may choose to pursue an affair because he has grown up believing that you can have your cake (a loving wife) and eat it too (the Other Woman).
While some psychologists negate the nanny theory … it might be a valuable piece of information for you to know if your husband was raised by a nanny.