There was once a time when the holidays were seen as days of rest and unfortunately that’s not the case for most people these days. If the craziness on Black Friday and Cyber Monday have shown us anything, it’s that this has become a very gift driven holiday. Retail stores go nuts and in terms of being a couple’s holiday, it’s probably only Valentine’s Day which can top it. Don’t let this get you down though, there are plenty of gifts that you can buy your affair partner that are simple and sweet if you feel like you’re in that gift giving mood.
There are a couple simple rules though that you want to follow and while they might seem obvious, there’s a reason that we’re putting them here. Either we’ve seen people making these mistakes first hand or we’ve been told by others about the mistakes that have been made.
The biggest goes first so if you’re shopping for someone you’re having an affair with or even considering sending them a gift, do not send it to their work. It seems convenient, we know, but don’t give into that feeling. You might think it’s safer than sending it to your affair partner at home which it is, but not as much as you would think it is. People at work take notice and in the world of social media where people can be tagged so easily, you don’t want to give your affair partner’s co-workers anything to talk about.
Keep the gifts small. Maybe you’re really thankful to your affair partner and want to show them just how much everything means to you and maybe you don’t think that a gift card will be able to convey that appreciation. Believe us, it will do just fine. It’s much easier to be able to explain away small gifts or gift cards than it is anything that’s a bit more expensive. Remember that your affair partner isn’t the only one who is going to be able to see these gifts, so you have to keep that in mind.
Nothing romantic. Again, you’re going to think it’s a good idea, but while a really nice candle or some perfume can be pinned on a gift from a friend, you’re not going to be able to say the same if the gift is some really nice lingerie. Keep it simple and keep it friendly. Your affair partner will thank you if you don’t make anything more complicated than it needs to be. This means that flowers are out, wine and chocolates are borderline and anything even remotely more romantic are right off the table.
Gift cards are your best friend. We’re a fan of gift cards because while they might seem a little on the uncreative side and aren’t as personal as any other gift that you could give, they’re discreet and it’s hard for people to keep up with the amount of gift cards they get over the holiday season. Thus, it’s perfectly reasonable that your affair partner could slip in that gift cards to the rest on the pile. Just make sure that it’s again, not tied to romance. Don’t give her a gift card to pick out her own lingerie or to a sex toy shop (yes, those exist). If you keep things friendly, it’s much easier for your gifts to go unnoticed by the spouse, but stick out in the mind of your affair partner which is all that you’re really going for.