Dating After Divorce

Dating After Divorce: 5 Tips to Get Back on the Wagon

Whether your marriage lasted two years or twenty, a divorce can be emotionally draining and the idea of dating after divorce may seem daunting. The good news? You’re in good company with lots of people looking to get back out there and date again who aren’t really sure where to start. On Ashley Madison, there are open minded individuals looking for a number of different types of encounters, from hookups to marriage and everything in between. 

While the divorce rate in the United States has hit an all-time low of 16.9 divorces per 1,000 people, the rate of divorce in older generations has actually gone up. Younger generations are getting married less, but staying together, whereas baby boomers are discovering that their marriages weren’t meant to last 50 years (or more).

When your divorce is fresh, the idea of dating can seem exciting, terrifying, overwhelming, or downright impossible. We’re here help you feel confident and make sure that you’re ready to get back in the dating pool.

  1. There is no “perfect time” after a divorce to start looking.
    You need to be in touch with how you really feel because crying over dinner while talking about your past is not the best way to get back into the game. Give yourself time to grieve the relationship and get over your ex, but not too much time that you settle into singledom.
  2. Take care of yourself
    Stress and negative emotions can easily wreak some havoc on your body and your health. Get back to the gym, be mindful about what you put in your body, and do things that make you happy.
  3. Dating after divorce doesn’t need to be about immediately finding the next “one,” have some fun with it on
    Instead of jumping out of one long-term relationship and into another, give yourself time to explore again. Have some fun while you re-learn who you are and what you really want from life. Date people you wouldn’t normally, do activities that are a bit out of your comfort zone. You might surprise yourself.
  4. Keep it casual for the first date.
    Whether or not you’re looking for something serious, you want to make sure that you mesh well in person before you commit to a lengthy date. No one wants to feel obligated to stay for dinner in an upscale restaurant if they’re not feeling a connection, so opt for a coffee or cocktail first and you can  lengthen the date if things are going well.
  5. Your family—and your ex’s family—doesn’t need to know that you’re back on the market.
    You may be ready to move on, but it could still sting if your ex finds out through the grapevine. Your children, your parents, and your former in-laws don’t need to know that you’re dating, so until you’re ready to introduce someone to them, keep it on the down low. If you have a discreet profile on Ashley Madison, you can protect your ex from such a surprise.

Ashley Madison is one of the world’s most open minded married dating sites. Operating in over 50 countries, our site attracts open-minded people looking for affairs, relationships, and more. Download the iphone or android married dating apps, and get started today!

  • Lissa
    Posted at 22:42h, 29 January Reply

    Spot on with this write-up, I actually believe that this site needs a great deal more attention. I’ll probably be back again to see more, thanks for the info!

  • John
    Posted at 06:53h, 21 February Reply

    That was a GREAT article. I’ve been divorced 7 years now, after an 18 year marriage. It’s been difficult at best. Have met several females that have become close friends. I have no interest in remarriage, but whats wrong with having friends of the opposite sex ?

  • Kevin J. Lenard
    Posted at 08:06h, 24 February Reply

    I was single for 5 years in my 50’s after a 13 year marriage and while I had a few (very few) really good dates via online sites, most were duds. Why? Lots of reasons, the biggest being that I’m super picky and the most attractive women get SWAMPED with offers, so it’s rare to land a date with one unless you put far too much effort into it. My luck changed when I stopped saying no to recently separated women (per the advice above) and ran into an attractive woman who was brand new to online dating (though she’d already been taken advantage of by a married guy who claimed they’d have to meet at a motel because his mother-in-law lived in his basement to nanny the kids — good one!). I had originally said no to meeting separated, not divorced, women because I myself had really not been emotionally ready to be serious about dating until well after my divorce.

  • Grace Myers
    Posted at 11:49h, 12 March Reply

    I was in my relationship at age 19 and I am now 63 but everyone tells me that I look 45 years old.. I don’t know if I should go for a younger guy/older..

    I have some financial problems still lingering which makes even thing about dating out of the question.

    It is approximately 4 years now since I do not have any sexual or companionship encounters. There are times when I do feel that I should but certain thoughts shut m done.

    I don’t want a relationship that I have to be the man and the woman I want to like life to its fullest. To be kind and understanding in a loving and passionate way.

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