While some things are obvious when it comes to dating online, there are other things which slip people's notice. We can't stress enough that photos of your private areas are best left in private galleries until they're asked for. It's just a polite thing to do, but on the internet the rules can seem suspended and it can be easy to forget that you would never approach people this way offline.
The best thing to do when you're trying to figure out if something's appropriate to do online is to picture yourself in an offline situation. If you were to see a beautiful woman in a bar or on the train would you unzip your pants to show her how well-endowed you are or even shove a picture of your junk under her nose for her to guess? Most of the answers to that would be no and for those of you who considered doing that, your answer should be no if you want to avoid getting charged with sexual harassment.
On the train and offline, we have a much better idea of where the lines are, but when it comes to our online interactions we are much more detached and lose some of that societal conditioning. Well, if you want to find a woman online without turning off most of them who are looking for an affair then you should probably get some of these back. That means putting thought into your message. Think of it as writing a message to someone you want to impress like a boss, but without the overly formal language.
Too often people will write out one message and then copy paste the same message thinking that no one will notice, but for anyone who has been using online dating websites for awhile the messages that are canned are obvious.
What we don’t seem to get and this is in part because we’re all so focused on instant gratification these days is that time needs to be put into any kind of dating to get the results that you want. While you might get lucky and find an affair partner who is willing to meet you the same day they first contacted you, most of the time the nature of an affair means that people like to be a little bit more cautious about how they participate in them.
So if you want to have an affair online then you need to put in the time. It doesn’t need to be an enormous amount of time, but realize at least that the time you put in will reflect the benefits that you get out of it. If you put in some time and a little effort (or at least enough effort to make each message personal) then you’re going to be much more successful than if you’re sending out the same message to every woman in your area hoping that the quantity of mails that you send will override the poor quality.
The truth about women on the dating scene whether it be offline or online is that they can have their pick of the men on pretty much any site they want. So put your best foot forward because doing things half-heartedly isn’t going to get you anywhere.