So you want to be player and you might have the moves, but do you really have the common sense for it? Playing isn’t all about living large; it’s about making smart choices too or having a backup plan if some utterly stupid decisions are made. Good players know the game and the moves that they should make, but a man who is an excellent player is like a chess master who knows what will happen if he sacrifices certain pieces so he can gain ground. This means that playing isn’t all about thinking with the little head, oh no. Most of the playing is done with the big head.
But like the chess master there are some moves that the player knows that he should never make if he knows what’s good for him. The best part about being a player is getting to have fun without tethering yourself to one person, but there are pitfalls which are easy to fall into if you’re not careful about how you do things. Now in a perfect world your intentions would be obvious and neither you, nor the girl that you’re currently digging would do anything to jeopardize your beautiful No Strings Attached relationship that you’ve got going on. Unfortunately life likes to throw its curveballs and it can be hard to judge when a girl is taking this all a little too seriously or not.
Or even worse, when you’re stepping over the line and screwing yourself over just because you think the end goal is worth it.
So here are four situations that should send up warning flags in your head should you ever find yourself in them and how to get out of them if you do find yourself in them.
Now male ego is nothing to scoff at and it’s true that having a healthy ego will help you get the things you want in life, even outside of the Player’s game. There needs to be a way to curb your ego though so it doesn’t get too big. While confidence is sexy, that swagger that can do no wrong and ends up getting you in a bunch of fist fights for no reason is not going to get you the girls. Or if it does, it will get you the needy girls that you as a player will want to avoid. So if a guy comes in like he’s got a dick down to his knees and is going to knock you down a peg or two, you can show yourself to be the bigger man by not fighting him.
Getting in a fight with someone who is being a jerk doesn’t teach the jerk a lesson. It just brings you down to the same level as the jackass who is shouting racial slurs across the bar. It won’t impress any girl that you’re with either unless he was making her uncomfortable. If it’s all about your ego though and him insulting you, show how unbothered and confident you are by not giving the bully the time of day.
Who wouldn’t like a vacation? It sounds like something that would be hard to lose with, right? Particularly since you’ll get to have a lot of sex with whoever you’re in an NSA relationship with at the time. The thinking on this is all wrong because one of the things that makes an NSA relationship work is being able to get away from the person should things get boring, tense, too close, etc. You don’t want that. You want to be able to keep things casual and not have to spend too much time with the person you’re in an NSA relationship with in one go.
This is impossible to do if you’re spending the weekend together. While it sounds good in theory, that extra sex is going to come attached to a slew of other problems. For both men and women, it’s hard not to get attached to someone when you’re sleeping with them and sharing intimate breakfasts, sleeping in the same bed… Well you get the drift. Keep things simple and your visits short.
Believe it or not, some guys really will do this in order to get laid and not only is it pathetic, it’s lowering the standards of the player all over the place. Really? Players grovel now? Give back that title before you hurt yourself, little boy. There are men who will fawn over the women that they’re with and give into their every whim not because that’s who they are or because that’s the kind of relationship that they’re looking for, but because they think that they’ll have a better chance at getting into a woman’s pants. Now, not only is this disingenuous to the extreme, it’s really kind of pathetic to watch.
They’ll let the woman they’re interested in make every decision and agree with her even if this worm hates her ideas. Then later on when he puts his foot down, he comes across as this huge jerk. Can you blame the woman for being confused? He’s been lying to her the entire time. Have some self respect and be up front in what you want. Confidence and a healthy dose of honest will get you what you want.
Now everyone knows that meeting her parents is a bad sign for someone who wants to remain unattached, but in reality, meeting her anything is a bad idea. You don’t want to meet her friends, her co-workers or anything in between because that is an intimate look into her life as well as little strings that will bind you into a relationship you weren’t looking for. Just like spending an entire weekend with your partner isn’t good for your player status, going on outings with people from her life (however innocuous these outings may seem) is going to put you straight on the path to boyfriend.
Meeting her friends at first and chatting them up so you can get in good with the lady of your choice is one thing, but after that first time you’re going to start being graded differently. What is okay for a one night stand does not fly with someone who she’s brought out to meet her girls.