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How Porn Can Improve Your Sex Life

    While not all of us are willing to admit it publicly, we like porn. We really like porn. According to one study, 79% of men and 76% of women watch it at least once a month.

    Whether watching alone or with a partner you met on AshleyMadison.com, porn can enhance your sex life, open your mind to new activities, and even improve your relationships. Being a little voyeuristic can have big benefits.

    Get to know yourself

    Porn is a great way to figure out what you like—and don’t like—in the bedroom. It’s difficult to tell a partner how to please you if you don’t, ahem, know yourself. Porn allows you to explore your sexuality in a safe, comfortable way. Watch videos or read erotica that features boundary-pushing scenes and take note of how you feel. If something turns you off or makes you uncomfortable, you’ve found a limit and you can communicate that to partners. To browse porn discreetly, use your browser’s Incognito Mode – or clear your history cache after each session.

    Get geared up

    It’s no surprise that watching sexy things onscreen can make people more interested in having sex. According to a study by the University of California, watching pornography can lead to higher sexual responsiveness. Whether watching solo or with a partner, porn is a great way to get your libido going.

    A Danish study found that both men and women who watch porn reported more satisfaction with their sex lives and better attitudes regarding sex. In fact, they reported even more positive attitudes associated with more hardcore pornography consumption.

    Get educated

    Watching sexy scenes can be educational if you find the right clips. When you’re looking to improve your technique, who better to teach you than the experts? There are all sorts of videos aimed at helping men and women become better lovers, and many feature actual couples with realistic bodies. You won’t be taught positions that require gymnast-like flexibility, but you will pick up some tricks that are sure to impress your partner. You can even watch it together and try things out as you go.

    Get closer

    Watching porn together can help break down any barriers to communication about sex. If you’re watching and you see something you want to try, it’s easier to speak up than trying to explain the act without the help of such visual aids.

    A study by Ann Summers, a British sex toy and lingerie store, found porn brings couples closer together. “Couples who watch porn together at least once a week reported being more committed and sexually satisfied than those who watched porn together less frequently or not at all. Fifty-eight percent of women who watched porn with a partner said that it had a positive effect on their sex life—over half said that it gave them the confidence to ask for what they wanted in bed.”

    Get de-stressed

    We all feel a bit overworked and stressed out from time to time. Porn can be a great alternative to your typical stress-relieving rituals. A study from Carnegie Mellon University found men’s stress responses were halved after simply looking at softcore imagery. In another study, women reported using porn to destress.

    Get (the right) content

    By now you know we think porn is great (and hope you do too!), but where you get your porn matters. There is a whole movement around ethical or feminist porn, that ensures that people are paid for quality content. Feminist porn also often involves more realistic portrayals of bodies, relationships, and sexual acts that focus on all parties’ pleasure.

    If that’s something that turns you on, here’s how to shop for more ethical porn:

    • Avoid clip sites. Piracy is one of the largest issues in the adult film industry. If you’re not paying for those clips, chances are the actors aren’t being paid for that view either. Performer Jiz Lee has said, “The only time I’ve felt exploited through porn is through piracy.” If you enjoy watching Brazzers, for example, it’s best to go direct to the source.
    • Get to know the performers. Many performers have their own websites where you can buy from them directly. From superstars like Joanna Angel to smaller names, some even offer personalized content for contributors or subscribers. You can follow many of them on social media, where they’ll help direct you to ethical porn options.
    • Don’t judge a book by its cover. BDSM and porn that plays in the arena of consensual non-consent is often hypervigilant in consent. A little research into the studio will tell you if the porn you’re watching is ethical.

    Whatever your reason for watching porn, it can have a positive impact on your sexless marriage.

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