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Be Your Own Porn Star: Sex Tape Tips

    Watching pornography can be a wonderful pastime, but making it can be way more fun.

    That’s right, we’re talking about homemade sex tapes.

    Thanks to technology, all you really need is a cell phone to make a sex tape for just the two (or more) of you. If you don’t want to make a feature together, another great option is to make a video of just yourself masturbating, possibly even interacting with the camera as though you were talking to someone there. A private sex tape can be a great surprise, whether it’s a long-distance relationship with someone you met on AshleyMadison.com or your partner is away on a trip.

    Before you break out the camera, ask:

    • Who is my audience?
      • Is this a video just for us or do we want to post this on an amateur porn site?  Should we make a pact to delete the video once we’ve had our fun with it? Is it something that you’re hoping to grab stills from for your private gallery on sites like Ashley Madison? Whoever your audience is, keep that in mind as you set the stage.
        Pro tip: To ensure no accidental uploads or live streaming, ensure that the recording device is on Airplane Mode.
      • Do we want to maintain anonymity? How do we do that?
        Pro tip: Make sure to cover up tattoos and other identifiers and opt to leave your face out of it. 
    • Where will the camera be?
      • Do we want another person in the room filming us?
      • Is there a good place to position the camera so we will be in frame?
        Pro tip: If the night stand shakes when the bed is a-rockin’, that’s probably not a good spot for it.
      • Do we need to buy a tripod?

    For your viewing pleasure
    Porn is available in many varieties when it comes to subject matter, but there are two viewing experiences for the audience, fly on the wall and POV (point of view).

    • Fly on the wall is the cinematographic choice of most amateur sex tape pornographers as it allows the freedom of movement/expression for all the actors in the scene. It allows the viewer to watch what is going on in its entirety while not feeling immersed in the action.

      This is a great option for the beginner because you can treat your camera like a crock pot: just set it and forget it. Remember the “forget it” part even if your video doesn’t turn out great—at the very least you’ll have some great sex while you make it. Do not interrupt the flow of the experience to check if you’re both still in frame. If you’re lucky, there will be other opportunities to hone your skills.
    • POV feels like a more interactive experience even though it is pre-recorded. The camera is a stand-in for the viewer, and one participant’s face is never shown, allowing the viewer to really feel like they’re there.
      Pro tip: If you want to go this route, you may want to invest in a small camera with an accessory that allows you to attach the camera to your head, like a Go Pro.

      If you plan on holding the camera by hand for the first-person perspective and it’s longer than a minute, there is a good chance that it will be shaky and not very fun to watch (and holding the camera may be a hindrance to enjoying the sex itself).

    Set the scene:
    Another part of the pornographic experience is the background. If you are doing this in your home, you may want to tidy it up a bit (you know, put the kids’ toys away if you’re doing it in the kitchen, etc).

    If you have nosy neighbors you may want to turn up the music, but whatever you do, do NOT have the TV on while making a porno. With very few exceptions, most people don’t really want to have sexy times while watching or listening to The Simpsons.
    Listen to the music that makes you energized, yet leaves you feeling sensual and sexy. Many find that music with a steady beat that isn’t too fast will put your sex at a pace that will be sustainable for a good session.

    Make it sexy:
    Be sure to also include your A-game dirty talk, but say the things to your partner, not to the camera, unless you are doing POV. Pro tip: Moaning, grunting, and expletive exclamations are incredibly sexy, so don’t hold back, but don’t fake it either.

    If you have long hair, you may want to consider tying it back or braiding it. Many an amateur porno has been marred by a star who needed to constantly adjust or flick their hair at every thrust or toss of their head, not to mention how painful it can be if it gets caught underneath your partner while in the throes of passion.

    While we are on this subject: sweat + false eyelashes = not pretty or fun. Wearing makeup is a great idea, but remember you’ll be exerting yourself. Waterproof mascara is your friend.

    Be safe:
    No matter what you choose, remember to be cautious, and only send nude photos and sexy videos to people you completely trust to not share them. Even though there are privacy laws in place in some US states and Canada and legal action can be implemented, nonconsensual sex tapes, or “revenge porn”, is still a risk factor. Remember that even low risk ways of sharing your videos and pics such as Snapchat and video chatting over Skype can still be recorded permanently on either end. Have fun, but be careful.

    The important parts of making a sex tape are to talk it out beforehand, have an idea in mind for the end product, understand your rights/risks, and most of all, have fun!

    If you’ve been dying to make a movie and are lacking the right partner or camera person, be upfront about what you’re looking for on a dating site like Ashley Madison and you could wind up with a cinematic viewing experience that will last you a lifetime.

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