No one can deny that texting is a core part not just of dating or affairs, but of our everyday lives. The convenience of being able to text someone without having to call or retrieve messages is a hallmark of communication in the modern age. This does come with its pitfalls, however, texting is an incredible thing and this is even more true when you take into consideration that it doesn't hurt as much if you're rejected over text message or feel as nerve-wracking to ask someone out on a date. The biggest problem when it comes to text messaging someone is that it's very hard to read what the tone is. Sometimes you can come across as sarcastic without meaning to or you can sound too harsh. It is to avoid these that people rely too much on emoticons or “…” which just makes them sound hesitant and insincere. Using these a little are fine, use them too much and you sound like a twat.
Now texting is becoming more and more common when it comes to setting up dates. This is particularly true for extramarital affairs or any affair that has been planned online. Texting is simple, efficient and lessens the chance of someone being caught in their affair as long as they're good about cleaning up their text messages afterward. It's much easier to be subtle about the fact that you’re texting someone than to be subtle about a phone call. We don't recommend that you set the first date over text, however, unless you met online. It can be harder to get that certain spark that makes someone look forward to a date through a text. One thing that is brilliant though when it comes to texting and that you need to take note of is that if you're caught in traffic and are going to be a bit late, text them to let them know. You can also send out a text earlier that day or the night before just confirming that you can't wait for your date later on.
When it comes to dating, texting is probably going to be a staple of your communication, particularly if you're having an affair. You're not going to be able to be online all the time to talk to your affair partner through instant messengers and texting is a discreet way to keep in contact. Everyone is on their phones these days and it doesn't sound strange for you to pull out your phone to check a text. One thing you want to keep in mind, however, is that your texting will leave records behind. You want to make sure that you clear all of your texts with your affair partner regularly so that someone glancing at your phone won't be able to see that you're having an affair. You're also going to want to make sure that you change the settings on your phone so it doesn't save who you've frequently contacted. While this is convenient, there's also a chance that your affair partner will end up on that list which brings up questions that are difficult to answer at best.
If you have a date with someone, you're not going to want to wait the three days that people used to say you have to wait in order to not seem desperate. If you wait three days then you've already lost your affair partner. No one has the time to wait that long anymore and even if they did, there's nothing that shows a lack of interest more than taking so long to get back to somebody. A recent survey by LoveGeist found that most people tend to get back to someone about a day and a half after they've had their first date. So don't dawdle.
You don't have to get back to them the same night and honestly, we wouldn't recommend that for you, since it does come off as a bit desperate. Only do this if you're positive that it went incredibly well or your affair partner texts you first.
On that note, here are some things that you never want to do over text.
1. Cancel dates over text. The only time when it's acceptable to cancel a date over text is if you've already tried to call them and couldn't reach them.
2. Fight over text. Fighting is hard and it becomes even more hard when you can't really read the tone of the person that you're fighting with. In order to avoid this, just pick up the phone to call someone if you think things are going to end up in a fight or tell them that you're going to talk about it later. There's nothing satisfying about a text fight and they tend to last longer than the actual ones.
3. Break up with someone or end an affair over text. This is only acceptable if you're on a strict NSA relationship and all you have between you is sex. Anything more and you'd better be picking up your phone. The only thing more cowardly than breaking up over text is breaking up over email.