Spring is all about new beginnings, about revitalizing yourself and your life through new routines or habits. This is where the spring cleaning comes into play, but no one ever really thinks about rejuvenating their sex routine during spring any more. Spring is all about getting it on. Eggs on Easter. Rabbits being everywhere. The earth is ready to get its groove on and you don’t want to be left behind, right? Marriage is like a house, but it’s rare that anyone thinks that it’s time to clean out the attic or wash the floors when it comes to an institution like that. Married men and women don’t tend to think about it in that way. Married or not, every relationship can use a little spring cleaning and if you have an affair partner, they can help you get to those hard to reach places for a good, deep cleaning and…
I’m sorry. I lost my train of thought there for a moment.
Sex advice. Right. Okay, so most sex advice that you’ll see in magazines or on blogs will tell you that to have the greatest sex life you need material things. Whether it’s lingerie, whipped cream or handcuffs, they say that in order to enjoy yourself fully you need to have extraneous things when that’s just not true. While toys and porn can help the experience, the majority of it is all on you. So in the spirit of spring renewal, here are four ways to have the best sex you’ve ever had this year.
1. Talk to each other. This can range from everything from talking dirty in bed to just not being afraid to discuss sex with each other. There can sometimes be a puritanical notion that talking about sex always has to be dirty when it really can be simply informative. Talk to your affair partner about your likes, your dislikes and things that you’ve always wanted to try to see what their reaction is. Even if they aren’t into the same things you are, the openness of the conversation will be conducive to openness and new things in the bedroom.
2. Try something new. Once you know what you like even small shifts in routine can help to make the sex new and exciting. If you normally do missionary, try a different position. If you normally do it on a bed, try against a wall. Don’t be afraid to try new things or rule out anything outside of your comfort zone. You never know if you might like it until you try and while some things (like pain, golden showers, etc) you can figure out without trying, the simpler things like blindfolds or being tied up are incredibly common among those who indulge in their fetishes.
3. Start foreplay before you even get near the bedroom. There’s this long standing idea that sex needs to be restricted to the bedroom and that foreplay only means the touching that builds up to sex that happens immediately after. You don’t need to follow this trend and instead can start getting each other in the mood long before you even see each other. The anticipation will build up, the mind will race and by the time you and your affair partner get to see each other you’ll be ready to rip each other’s clothes off. This can be done in many ways. You can do it on your own by fantasizing about your partner or together by sexting.
4. Sext. A lot of people think that sexting is hard, but that’s not true. Sexting covers such a wide variety of messages and pictures that even saying “I want you so bad right now” could count as a sext. You know what suits you best, so don’t feel like you need to talk like a porn star or a romance novel in order to get your affair partner worked up. Most of the time, simplicity is the key and if you just put your fantasies into words both of you are going to have a great time. Failing that, there’s always naked pictures. It’s very hard to go wrong with naked pictures, but even regular pictures fully clothed can be a boon when you’re sexting your affair partner because then they can imagine taking off each article of clothing.