Oh the non-monogamous relationship is something that so many people want to indulge in, but the truth of the matter is that these aren’t just the unicorn of relationships that come galloping into your lives. Non-monogamous relationships take work and understanding. The first question you have to ask yourself is if you’re the type of person who can handle non-monogamy. Not everyone is and with the way that people put an emphasis on possessing or owning someone it can be hard to break out of that mindset.
No one needs to be told that the divorce rate is sky rocketing. No one needs to be told that there are too many people who just can’t keep going til death do them part.
So if you are good enough to accept that you’re non-monogamous, you have to accept that the people you are with are allowed to be non-monogamous as well. Some people misunderstand and think that being a part of a non monogamous relationship means that you get to gather a harem of people around that all focus 100% of their attention on you. This is wrong and if this is what you want, you’re going to need to take a step back and go back to pornography. While this could happen in an orgy situation or a group sex situation if it’s all planned out that way, it isn’t practical to keep up with in a real world situation.
So you need to be a person who doesn’t get jealous for starters and your partner needs to be someone who doesn’t get jealous. If that’s the case then you and your partner can enter the world of swingers, married couples who sleep with other people either as a couple or on their own. People who swing tend to get a lot of sex, especially in the bigger cities where there are swinger clubs and places to have private little swing parties.
If you can handle not being jealous, but your partner can’t and you’re not getting what you need from said partner then you don’t need to end things with them. Relationships are not something to just be tossed away so carelessly and if you want to keep your current partner while satisfying your needs then this is where affairs become necessary. Now non-monogamy allows you to do all those things you love to do. You can flirt, you can keep your days exciting because every time that you meet someone new there’s that chance and you’re not blocked from having everything you could want.
Life opens up and there are just so many possibilities that it’s hard to think of anything else but all the awesome sex that you could be having.
Plus you get to do the exploration that tends to sizzle out when you’re in a long term, completely monogamous relationship.
It’s easy for people to fall into ruts, but hard for them to get out of them unless they’re pushed out of it. When you’re sleeping with new people all the time you never fall into that rut. You’re not going to feel worn down and worn out by having to go through the same routine that you always do. Life isn’t going to be as easy to figure out, but that’s the beautiful part about all of it that will help you get through the tougher times.
When you’re in non-monogamy, especially when you’re around other people who are non-monogamous, you’re able to be a lot more emotionally open and to communicate with your partners when you know that they’re not going to judge you for the fantasies that you have.
Basically open relationships will help you to understand more about the people around you as well as yourself. They can’t survive if you’re being close minded and if you’re not communicating properly then you’re going to run into many more problems than you would in a regular monogamous relationship.
Prepare to be put through a communication crash course like you’ve never experienced before.
So why should you do non-monogamy? Well how about it makes every day an adventure. Those who play hard, but play safe, find that they’re not as affected by the stress around them. Sex is also a powerful stress reliever so the combination of not feeling bogged down by mundane routine and getting sex from it as an added bonus means that you’re going to get a lot happier.