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6 Steps To The Perfect Online Dating Profile

    We know how excited you are to jump in and start messaging people as soon as you join Ashley Madison. But before you reach out, there’s one big thing you’re missing: a complete online dating profile.

    Many people are so eager to start searching for people the minute they join an online date site that they either leave their profile blank or write something quickly, never giving it a second glance.

    That’s okay if you’re just taking a look around, but if you’re serious about your search, your online dating profile is one of the most important tools in your belt. You’re great, and your Ashley Madison profile should reflect just how awesome you are.

    Size Matters

    You want your profile to be detailed enough to tell people about you, but short enough to leave them wanting more. Online attention spans are shorter than ever, so anything more than three paragraphs is too long. Think of your profile as an appetizer and save the entrée for later.

    • Show, don’t tell—instead of saying you’re “fun” or “adventurous”, share your favourite brunch spots or talk about the time you backpacked across Europe. Anyone can write “I have a good sense of humour”, but it takes talent to make someone laugh.
    • When writing about yourself, avoid just listing of adjectives. If you’re stuck, assign an activity or interesting point to each descriptor. Want to say you’re a happy person? Tell them you always have a smile on your face and can find the silver lining in any situation. Want to convey that you’re smart? Talk about your favourite book and why it speaks to you.
    • Avoid mentioning past disappointments and bad break-ups in your profile or how unhappy you are with your marriage. Keep things cheerful and optimistic.

    You wouldn’t list bad workplace experiences on a résumé, so treat this like an Ashley Madison CV. Don’t let yourself be defined by negativity or bad experiences of the past.

    Upload a Picture

    Everyone likes knowing who they’re talking to. People with a photo are 3 times more likely to get a message. Not having at least a private photo on your online dating profile could lead people to overlook you—and we don’t want that. Some people even specify in their search that they only want to speak to people who have visible photos. Don’t worry about how photogenic you are. Different people have different tastes and not everyone expects to meet a movie star or a supermodel online. A clear shot of you smiling is all it takes to seriously increase the amount of responses you get.

    If discretion is a concern, Ashley Madison’s discreet photo tools make it easy for you to control who sees what. You can blur or mask your profile photo or keep your photos in private galleries to share with people when you’re comfortable.

    Honesty is the Best Policy

    If your profile says you’re 6’4″ when you’re really 5’11”, your cover will be blown as soon as you turn up for your date. Also, starting a relationship—of any kind—with a lie is a sure way to get off to a bad start.

    If you want to attract a likeminded person you can really be yourself with, you have to be honest about who you are, your hobbies and interests, and what you’re looking for on Ashley Madison.

    It’s important to be honest and open about what type of relationship you’re looking for and the type of people you’re interested in. Your online dating profile isn’t the place to be shy. The best way to get what you really want is to ask for it. Just want someone willing to be available for quick lunchtime rendezvous? Are you in an open marriage? Say so. Looking for someone adventurous to take on a weekend getaway? Tell them. And remember—confidence is very sexy.

    Who You’re Looking For

    One of the most-overlooked sections of Ashley Madison profiles is also one of the most important: My Perfect Match. If you’re looking for someone tall with a killer sense of humor who’s a good listener, let them know. If you’re more into a tattooed non-conformist who dislikes routine, this section is your chance to speak up.

    Once you’ve got these basics down, you’re ready to start searching for and messaging people. If you’re confident in your online dating profile, you’ll be confident in your search. So get out there and find your match!

    Another tip: Be clear about what you want. If you’re looking for online chat, let them know that. Want a polyamorous relationship? Say so. Be sure people know what you’re looking for early on to avoid confusion and disappointment.

    Nailing the Nickname

    One of the first things you’ll need to do is come up with a catchy nickname. This is the name all other members will associate with you, so make sure it’s a good reflection of who you are and what you’re looking for.

    If you’re looking for something more casual, feel free to make it a bit more suggestive. Otherwise skip anything with “69” or any mention of sex—even if it’s tongue-in-cheek. And of course, avoid anything that uses your real first or last name.


    The greeting is a great place to get a little more creative, so put some effort in.

    Nothing is more of a turnoff than reading “I don’t know what to write here.”

    A great greeting is the best way to intrigue someone enough to read your profile, look at your photos, and send you a message. Think about it: when you’re scrolling online, you open the post with the catchy headline and scroll right past the cookie-cutter phrasing.

    Check out our privacy and security tips for more ways to safeguard your identity online.

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